Biology Of Love – Facts You Must Know About Your Love Life.
The word love is so complex and complicated and we are found of decieving ourselves by claiming to love someone with all our heart. Funny enough love and the act of loving has got nothing to do with the heart. In this article, I will take my time to open your eyes to some unimaginable facts about love.
Love is a complex and complicated set of emotions, behaviors and beliefs associated with feelings of affection, protectiveness, warmth and respect for another person.
Love is always been said to erupt from the heart but logically it’s not. The whole process of loving starts and ends in the brain.
Love is a complex chain of affection with three sub chains called (i) Lust (ii) Attraction & (iii) Attachment. The longevity of love depends on which of the sub chains that has been acquired. It’s getting more interesting don’t hesitate to give me all your attention as I take you through the sub chains of this complex chain of affection called love.
Lust : Lust is a strong sexual desire for someone. It is controlled by two major sex hormones which are testosterone (Male sex hormone) & estrogen (female sex hormone) and their production is stimulated by a particular part of the brain nomenclated hypothalamus. Lust is majorly the basis of all relationships. It is a sexual drive which is more rampant among men and that explains the reason men are always the instigator of most romantic relationships. (They kick the ball rolling by approaching the lady.) Lust as the first sub chain of love may progress to the attraction stage, remain stagnant or get terminated.
Note : when the only thing he want from you is sex, know quite right that he is in lust with you. And when the only thing you crave for on setting sight on him is sex, then you are in lust not yet in love. Beware and be wise.
Attraction : It is the action of evoking interest in someone or something. It is controlled by three hormones secreted by the hypothalamus in the brain which are : Dopamine, Norepinephrine & Serotonin.
Dopamine is known for signaling feedback for predicted rewards. It makes you wanna do things for the joy and pleasure you will derive. When dopamine and neropinephrine are at work, you feel giddy, energetic and euphoric leading to decrease in appetite and insomnia. Which means you can be so “in love” that you can’t eat and can’t sleep.
At this stage of love, the only thing that crosses your mind is the partner. This is when the feeling of wanting to do just anything to be with your partner erupts. At this sub chain of love, it is no longer for the sex alone but also for the joy of wanting to see your partner. This is a more safer stage than the lustful stage.
Note : You can be sure you have graduated to this stage by staying with your partner for days without sex, the moment you are tired of staying because sex is not involved, then you haven’t graduated from the lustful stage.
Attachment : is defined as affection, fondness, or sympathy for someone or something. Attachment is the predominant factor in long-term relationships. While lust and attraction are pretty much exclusive to romantic entanglements, attachment mediates friendships, parent-infant bonding, social cordiality, and many other intimacies as well. The two primary hormones here appear to be oxytocin and vasopressin. Oxytocin is often nicknamed “cuddlehormone” for this reason. Like dopamine, oxytocin is produced by the hypothalamus and released in large quantities during sex, breastfeeding, and childbirth. This may seem like a very strange assortment of activities – not all of which are necessarily enjoyable – but the common factor here is that all of these events are precursors to bonding. This is the for better for worst stage of love, you feel committed and ready to go extra mile for your partner.
Note : Be sure of the stage you are in your love life, know your relationship goals and motives.
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